I am
fascinated with the psychology of the mind and human behavior and our
complexities of emotions. The basis of the work I do with clients is to help remove
the layers of emotional baggage we humans feel the need to carry around like pack
mules. Inevitably in the unraveling, we reach a layer filled with fear that has
a direct correlation to the struggles they are facing.
I am always
curious about the origins of one’s fears. How do so many fears get implanted in
our psyche? So many of our actions and decisions are based in fear and we are
not even aware of it because it is programmed in the subconscious mind as a
belief.
If we listen
closely to the words we choose, it becomes very apparent when we have a belief
that is based in fear. Hate is one of those words. Fear is the basis for hate. If
fear is allowed to rule in our life, it leads to much negative and violent
behavior. Things like racism and war are fueled by fear. Fear keeps us separate;
invoking the ‘us against them’ mentality and fueling our hatred. Hate keeps us
in the lowest vibration, furthest from the vibration of Love.
Let’s start
the unraveling of fear by dissecting the use of the word hate – verb; to dislike intensely or passionately; feel extreme aversion for or extreme
hostility toward; detest. When I hear people exclaim how they hate this or that
and how random their hatred seems to be, I like to invite them to shift their
awareness to the use of the word hate because of the energy that particular
word carries. Often when I question someone about the use of the word, they are
not even aware how often they use it, or why hate has become their default
verb.
Consequently,
the opposite of hate is love. This means if we are in the energy of hate we are
the furthest distance from the energy of love. So every time you use the word
hate you are absent of love. Your intended use of the word hate has no bearing
on the energy associated with it. You can say the word hate while listening to
Mahlers Symphony No. 8 and it won’t change the energetic vibration of the word
hate.
If you don’t
understand the significance and power behind words I recommend you read the
research done by Dr. Masaru Emoto. Words are so powerful they can support life
or destroy life, yet most people are not conscious to the words they choose to
use. We claim to hate many random things and if we actually think about what we
profess to hate versus love, in most cases it doesn’t appear very logical.
Because I
love and respect nature, I most recently have been very attuned to how many
things people claim to hate within nature. How one reacts to their environment
is a simplistic way to help demonstrate the inner workings of hatred and how so
many of our fears are programmed beliefs from our unconscious mind. A person
can hate dandelions but love marigolds, hate pine trees but love lilac trees,
hate spiders but love grasshoppers, hate wasps but love bumble bees, hate centipedes
but love caterpillars (make them fuzzy and they are loved even more). So what
is the belief that created such a strong hate of so many things around us?
I love
opening dialogue of discovery with clients, friends and family. This blog was
inspired by a june bug. Someone stated they hated june bugs. When I questioned
why, there was no real answer – they are creepy and they make a creepy noise as
they bang up against the window screen at night.
People don’t
think twice about killing something in nature they find annoying or, in this case,
creepy. When opening the dialogue about the basis of this hatred toward
specific species, there was no rational explanation for it. This is someone who
grew up in the country where, as a child, all plants, animals and insects were
explored and appreciated for their simplicity and beauty. Somewhere along the
line a fear developed into a hatred that led to a killing. When sharing this
topic with a friend, she agreed that june bugs are creepy and hates them.
Further discussion revealed a fear of them buzzing on the window screen when
she was a child. Fear-Hate-Kill.
Emotions are
triggered by particular beliefs. Fear is based on a belief that one's life is
in danger. When you see a spider your subconscious says fear-hate-kill and you
smack it without a second thought. Now, unless it is a poisonous spider (which would
be considered a rational fear if it was about to attack you), what is the
thought that triggered the fear that makes you reflexively take its life
without hesitation? What are you thinking when the fear arises in a non-life threatening situation? Emotions are automatic responses and thus fallible, so they
should be compared to reasoned thoughts. If a conflict occurs, you can attempt
to resolve why the conflict exists by understanding why the emotion is being
triggered and whether it is correct. This will provide you with the opportunity
to change a belief based on subconscious programming based in fear.
God, Creator,
Great Spirit lives within all things, within every plant, insect, animal, tree,
and in every one of us. How can we justify loving this but not that? Is that not the basis of prejudice? Fear creates separateness and judgment of life we view
different and somehow less significant to the planet than our own. You honor
Spirit by honoring all living things, as all living things are from the same
source. When we love we love ourselves so when we hate, don't we also hate ourselves? By expressing love we are then in our highest vibration.
Changing our
programmed beliefs is not an overnight event, but it begins with awareness.
When we become aware of our words, we start to see what our programmed beliefs
are and this is a direct correlation to our present reality. When we remain
conscious – a state we can only obtain by being fully present in the moment –
we can rewrite the words we use. This is something I personally work on all the
time. I am grateful to have amazing friends, family and clients that remain
open to the work I do, and allow me to be who I am and to share all my thoughts
and ideas openly. When you see peace and love, you become peace and love. When you
respect all of nature, it respects you back. Love something in nature you have
only known to hate. Shift from hate to love and see how much love you get in
return. I leave you with this excerpt from a book a very dear friend
recommended because she thought of me while she was reading it. It has become one
of my favorites – thank you!
You cannot remain conscious motivated
by fear. You will experience sorrow, suffering and death. It is only your ego
that makes you fear. Your ego is here to look after your physical body, to make
sure it gets enough to eat, to make sure it does not walk over the edge of a
cliff or damage itself unknowingly. Your ego is the steward and potential
master of all material –plane fears, an important and necessary component of
your identity. However, your ego was never meant to provide you with your
primary sense of self. In a healthy state, the ego is a secondary component of
identity. In a healthy state, the Being behind all being, the self behind every
self, the Great Spirit behind all of creation is experienced as your primary
sense of self. Your ego does not have to be repressed or transcended for this
to happen. It does not have to die. It simply has to assume an appropriate
relationship with the spirit that in truth you are, the spirit that wants to
incarnate and take up residence in your body/mind/heart system. Your ego is by
nature a reflection. It can either be a good, sharp, clear reflection, or it
can try to be an independent reflection. Your ego may create such an illusion,
but if you believe in it, you will be troubled and unfulfilled. When your ego
stops trying to do everything all by itself, and invites eternal spirit into
your consciousness, your historical illusion evaporates like mist on a sunny morning.
A polarity reversal takes place in the charge of your human envelope. The field
of consciousness around you changes. Instead of your ego dominating your sense
of identity and blocking your awareness of the Great Spirit, an eternal sense
of self awakens within you. You remember and everything is seen differently.
The world is perceived anew through the eyes of a universal awareness. Your ego
becomes your working partner, and you commence the conscious creation of a new
human reality.
When you simply destroy that which you
cannot understand, it will come back to you again and again, each new form
worse than the previous. But if once you can understand what motivates your
enemy, you can often help him discover superior ways of accomplishing his
deeper purpose.
Return of the Bird Tribes – Ken Carey
